I know the heading feels like a bad rap, and that is because of three things wither you feel guilty of loving your own, do not care about yourself, or does not know the true meaning of self-love.
If we love ourselves that does not mean that we just care about our own and disregard other people, or put ourselves ahead of others for the sake of a personal gain. This is not self-love; this is what we call selfishness. however, Self-love is much more meaningful and chicer than that, it is when you care about your image so much that you sometimes might put others needs before you, and also it means that you make sure that all your desires are met but not on the expense of other people suffering.
You can not love anyone, until you love yourself, because you will not know the true meaning of love in the first place and if you felt that you love someone it would be just yourself answering a care call from your crush, it is so practical like a mathematical problem that has to be cracked; having all the givens and the requirements. Besides, if you are not a self-loving person and you are in a relationship you will always feel that there is something wrong; when you compromise and sacrifice in your relationship you will feel that your partner is disregarding your own, you will feel kind of violated and used, and that is because you are not doing it out of love, because frankly, you are not in love you are just playing by the book (relationship=sacrifice). In short, if you don’t love yourself, then you will not believe and always doubt anyone who tells you that they love you.
Enough talking, and let us explore now, how to love us:
Talk to yourself:
This is not crazy ☺you should speak with yourself and have a one-on-one conversation, ask yourself how are you doing each day, how is your mood?? Seriously!!! try to understand yourself more. if you once felt down dig deep and try to find out why your feeling like that, do not run to other people in order to make you feel better about yourself because that might be a temporary break that will fade away the minute you leave their company.
Face your fears and your wrongdoings:
Do not blame or shame yourself, do not hold a grudge, if you did something wrong in the past, reason with yourself, slap it, shout to it, get it all out of your system; as if you disciplining someone you care about, for no one will heal us but us with the help of God.
You should have high levels of self-esteem with reason, know that you are worth it or at least try to be. If you made a mistake accept it and try to correct it, don’t act apologetic on yourself. If someone is criticizing you, do not take it personally and play the defense card, for you know who you are and you don’t have to prove to anyone what you are made of because you know it and that what’s important.
Take care of your posture:
Exercise and get your shape back, eat healthily, meditate, give yourself a spiritual boost man! It is all about spoiling your body and soul, sometimes life is so hectic and hard enough to make us forget about taking care of ourselves, and that is super normal. nevertheless, we should give ourselves some me time to regenerate and nourishes ourselves in order to coup with our lifestyle in the right way.
Have a piece of mind:
Take a break from everything for a while; set a time that you just throw all the life’s stress away, and the best way to do that is to travel and have some piece of mind you and nature only, you will then feel perfectly fine and so energetic to start again.